A darkening world ahead
Resilience coaching for men in the modern world is a specialised form of personal development and guidance aimed at helping men enhance their capacity to effectively navigate and recover from life’s inevitable challenges, stresses, and adversities. It goes beyond simply “struggling” and focuses on “moving forward” by learning from difficult experiences and growing stronger as a result. Looking around you, it’s obvious to many that we are heading into some heavy global storms, and we are in a very leaky boat. We’ve had it so good for the past fifty years that we’ve become complacent and lazy, focusing only on our everyday lives and forgetting about what lies beyond our physical and mental borders.
Scrolling through the news and social media, we’re entertained by shorter and shorter snippets of brain bubble gum. Everywhere you look, it seems the world is teetering on the edge of uncertainty. From global pandemics, economic debt bubbles, to political polarisation, fractured societies, and environmental concerns, to name but a few. It’s not just news headlines; it’s a feeling in the air, a collective weight of uncertainty that presses down on us. So, it’s understandable to feel overwhelmed, lost, and without a clear vision for your future.
It’s a very natural response, with all this perceived chaos coming at us from all angles, to feel fatigue and anxiety about your life. It’s easy to feel like you have no drive or purpose and ask yourself what the point of it all is, if it’s going to hell in a handbasket. This feeling is so widespread that it’s likely to be a significant challenge in the declining civilisation we are a part of. But, within all this turbulence and uncertainty lies an incredible opportunity for those who are awakened to it. The chance to become the architect of your own compelling future, regardless of what unfolds around you. An awakening to the opportunity to design a better version of yourself, a version 2.0 and thrive through all the turbulence. Resilience to the guaranteed knockdowns that will come your way on this programme for growth
What is Resilience Coaching?
So, what is this resilience coaching thing, and how can it help?
At its core, resilience coaching helps you to develop your mental fortitude, emotional intelligence, and practical skills to cope with setbacks and thrive despite them. It is about educating yourself on how the world works and then plotting a path through things that are on the horizon.
It’s not therapy to heal you of some long-forgotten event, and it’s certainly not about me providing you a shoulder to cry on (ask your mother or wife for that). It is about having the courage to ask for guidance to evolve into a better version of yourself and face the challenges head-on with a plan for growth despite them.
In my coaching, we address individual issues you’re struggling with (although they can often be linked to others) and provide solutions in an hour to two, resulting in a personalised “next steps” plan. Alternatively, we work on the overall picture of your life, moving all aspects forward together with a bespoke coaching programme tailored to you.
Our journey together will focus on actionable, step-by-step strategies, based on two main, distinct parts. Firstly, we build up your inner strength, which becomes your foundation for a stable but adaptable future. Secondly, we put in place ways to learn how to navigate the changing world with education and implementable goals and plans. Here is a list of typical things that we may work on.
Building Your Inner Strength
- Vision, identity, purpose and focus
- Societal expectations (evolving roles) vs Personal desires
- Mindset, mental state, emotional state and physical strength
- Limiting beliefs and sabotaging patterns
- Using your vision to create steps towards a compelling future
Navigating the Changing World
- Education and understanding
- Critical thinking and personal accountability
- Letting go of things that you cannot control.
- Digital minimalism
- Designing and plotting a compelling path – Financial, strategic, and lifestyle
- Preparing for global issues
- AI and the changes in purpose
Working with me
As a man who has experienced the clichéd “midlife crisis” with a total lack of purpose and drive, I know firsthand that it takes courage to seek help. We are hardwired to take the blows and soldier on. I don’t have an issue with struggle in our lives because it is vital for growth and development. However, I understand immense courage is needed to reach out to me, and you have the capacity to do so within you. The reason I became a coach is that I found many self-help gurus offering great ways to “fix you,” but all using different terms, methods, and belief systems that failed to provide tools to function in a changing world. Off-the-shelf solutions didn’t address many of the problems, which were both an uncertainty of being and a skill to navigate a rapidly changing world.
We are a highly intelligent species that has climbed to the top of the pyramid through our adaptability, problem-solving skills, and self-awareness. Now more than ever, we need these tools, but in a world that has made us lazy, fat and self-indulgent, we have forgotten how to. The world is changing faster than ever before, and no one seems to know how to help people see the larger picture.
We are all different, so at any given time, we will have different anxieties and fears for ourselves, our families, and the world as a whole. There is not one quick fix or ready-made solution. It takes a bit of time and effort to determine what we are struggling with, and coaching can help. The time for feeling adrift and overwhelmed is over. It’s time to rise above the anxieties, reclaim your inner power, and embark on a journey of intentional growth.
